Taking the initiative needs no justification
Do not begin by apologising for your message or promising not to bother the person again. Say which profile detail you liked and ask about it. You can express interest directly while keeping things light. After sending, there is no need to add several more messages straight away. The other person may have a different rhythm, and mutual interest becomes clear gradually.
- Choose one specific reason to write.
- Express it in your usual words.
- Allow time for a reply after sending.
A place to start
Choose a relevant example and adapt it to your situation. Do not assume someone has interests they have not mentioned.
I liked your description of an unhurried day off. I'd like to get to know you. What usually makes a day like that enjoyable for you?
I decided to message first: we share an interest in short trips. Where would you choose to go on your next free day?
Prepare your own version
Taking the initiative needs no justification: Choose one step and write down how you would like to suggest it.
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What else is useful to know
Do I need to explain why I messaged first?
No. The message itself is enough. Taking the initiative does not oblige you to carry the whole conversation afterwards: attention and participation can be mutual.
What is available in GuessWish?
GuessWish offers ways to meet people through visual choices, have conversations and chat with AI. These are separate formats. Check the interface for available features, terms and the prices of individual actions.
Can you guarantee a connection or a reply?
No. Interest, replies and willingness to meet depend on the other person. The examples on this page help you start a conversation but do not promise an outcome.
