Take the initiative without a complicated script
You do not have to wait for the other person to start. At the same time, a first message does not need to prove your worth or guarantee further conversation. Avoid tests, hidden competition and questions that sound like an employer's questionnaire. Choose a small topic that lets you exchange stories. If there is no reply, you do not need to change yourself immediately or send many more messages.
- Choose a topic that interests you too.
- Take the initiative with a short message.
- Keep talking if the interest is mutual.
A place to start
Choose a relevant example and adapt it to your situation. Do not assume someone has interests they have not mentioned.
You have a film camera in your photo. What do you enjoy most about shooting that way: the process or the surprise of the result?
I also like day trips. Is there a place you've been meaning to visit without taking a long holiday?
Prepare your own version
Take the initiative without a complicated script: Choose one step and write down how you would like to suggest it.
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What else is useful to know
Does sending the first message seem pushy?
A polite message is not pushy in itself. Repeated demands for attention after a refusal or a lack of interest become pressure.
What is available in GuessWish?
GuessWish offers ways to meet people through visual choices, have conversations and chat with AI. These are separate formats. Check the interface for available features, terms and the prices of individual actions.
Can you guarantee a connection or a reply?
No. Interest, replies and willingness to meet depend on the other person. The examples on this page help you start a conversation but do not promise an outcome.
